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Time:09:57 am
If you  were a non custodial parent and found out one of your kids was really sick (like stay home from school and sleep, not hospital sick) and were offered another day for your visitation would you take it to allow the kid to feel better?

My oldest has the flu, he had a 103.6 temp yesterday and has a 101.6 temp today, he stayed home from school both days. 

My ex is insisting that he take both kids (sick kid and his younger brother), because it is "HIS time with them".

1. It's not HIS time with them but THEIR time with him,.
2. He has neglected to treat the kids past illnesses other than lying to a Dr. to get my 11 yr old put on an adult dose of anti depressants that made him physically ill.
3. The reason we are divorced is because I had him arrested for domestic abuse. he still claims I am "going out of my way to make his life miserable" (how narcissistic)

I talked to the legal advocate at the local womens shelter and she said that I have offered a fair alternative (different weekend) and that if he refuses to take the alternative that when he shows up I should call the cops and use the restraining order against him, and to call her immediately so she can come and help as well.

Please send energies and strength, and if anyone knows a good lawyer in Northern WI thats willing to take payments please let me know.
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tcaptain
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Time:2007-10-19 04:02 pm (UTC)
Hmmm...he doesn't sound like a good guy.

I don't have any kids, so I might be talking out my ass too..so...

1. It's not HIS time with them but THEIR time with him,.

I'll be honest, I have a REAL issue with this statement. Its not an either/or situation...yes its THEIR time with HIM...but I'd think its also HIS time with THEM. If I had kids, I know I'd feel this way...because I know I would WANT time with them FOR ME as well as for them.


Personally, I figure it would depend on the situation. I mean, moving sick kids around isn't a great idea in the best of times...but at the same time I'd want to do my part in taking care of them and such.

Sending good thoughts your way
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polylizzy
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Time:2007-10-19 04:17 pm (UTC)
when theya re with him he sleeps next door at his girlfriends house and leaves them alone in his apatment. he was convicted of domestic abuse and I was made primary parent because of his keeping the kids from me for over a month after I was hospitalized without a court order. He is now following the domestic abuser rulebook to a T and threatening legal action adn police involvement because I offered him a trade in days (which means I am trying to keep his kids from him it seems).

if it was someone who I trusted to actually take care of the kids I wouldnt have a problem but according to him "I pay for them with child support so its MY turn to have them". They are not his kids but his property.
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karinablack
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Time:2007-10-22 08:25 pm (UTC)
I agree with your legal advocate. The last thing a kid needs when they are sick (or any other time, really) is the stress of a power play and adjusting to the other house, the other rules, the other caregiver... yikes. :(
Good luck!
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